meet jen
Certified Trauma-Informed Master Coach.
Recovering Perfectionist and People Pleaser.
Yoga Teacher. Author. Columnist.
"Wow, that’s interesting," I thought, as another jaw-dropping realization hit me: I had been relating to my business as if it were my parents.
The old conditioning runs deep.
Even after all the inner work I’ve done, a part of me—the “prover” who once believed validation and approval had to be earned—was still shaping my decisions and my feelings about my work. I wasn’t outsourcing my worth, but I could see how those old patterns subtly lingered, subtly influencing how I was building a business meant to empower women.
That insight stopped me in my tracks. It was another reminder of how deeply our relationship with ourselves shapes everything—our work, our relationships, and the way we move through the world.
My relationship with myself began to shift in my 40s, catalyzed by a painful divorce. That chapter of my life cracked me open. It was the start of my deepest inner work—a journey of untangling childhood beliefs, healing trauma, and learning how to meet myself with compassion rather than criticism.
For most of my life, I was the “good girl.” The good student. The good partner. I was driven by performance, perfection, and pleasing others, but underneath, I was struggling with self-doubt, fear of mistakes, and a belief that I was never enough.
It wasn’t until I found myself standing alone at midlife—divorced, uncertain, and stripped of external identities I’d clung to—that I finally started asking different questions. Instead of “I am broken. How do I fix myself?” I began asking, “What would it mean to trust myself?”
That shift was a door opener.
In the years since, I’ve:
Transformed my self-doubt into self-trust. I gave myself permission to be messy, make mistakes, and still be worthy.
Uncovered the unconscious patterns initiated in childhood—patterns that kept me small, without boundaries, and stuck.
Reclaimed my sovereignty. I learned how to meet my needs without outsourcing my worth to relationships or accomplishments.
Regulated my nervous system. Coming out of survival mode and building the capacity to hold what you want is how to go after dreams with greater confidence and less anxiety.
Made bolder choices. Like living in Mexico, writing a book, starting my own business, and finding love again—on my terms.
My inner work didn’t just heal me; it gave me choices. And those choices have supported me to go after what I want instead of feeling stuck and joyless.
This journey isn’t unique to me—it’s one that so many women navigate. When we don’t address the unconscious beliefs and patterns we carry, they bleed into the other aspects of our lives, limiting what we allow ourselves to create and experience.
If any of this resonates, you’re not alone. Inner work is the most important work we do—not just for ourselves, but for the businesses, relationships, and lives we want to lead.
Certifications:
Trauma-Informed Master Coach (Elementum Coaching Institute: Alexi Panos, Preston Smiles, Christine Hassler, Stefanos Sifandos)
Integrative Wellness Coach (Integrative Wellness Academy: Dr. Rachel Dew)
Yoga Teacher
M.B.A.
And life.
