Overthinking in relationships doesn’t mean you’re the problem.

If you replay conversations, read into someone’s tone, question what you said, or immediately assume you did something wrong — you’re not alone.

For perfectionists and people-pleasers who are tired of the mental spin.

When Something Feels Off

It might look like:

• rewriting the same message three times because it “doesn’t feel right”

• reading into someone’s tone and assuming you should’ve known better

• taking on more responsibility or saying yes to keep the peace

• asking for reassurance — and still not feeling settled

• replaying a conversation long after it’s over

• shutting down or pulling away after one perceived mistake

• feeling the distance after a small moment and trying to fix it before it grows

You don’t overthink because there’s something wrong with you.

You overthink because somewhere along the way, it became safer to question yourself than to question the situation.

So you learned to monitor how others were feeling.
To adjust your tone, your needs, your reactions.
To assume fault first.

And slowly, trusting yourself started to feel risky.

What’s Actually Happening

This isn’t a confidence issue.

It’s a protection pattern.

When something feels uncertain in a relationship, your system reacts.

Your body tightens.
Your thoughts speed up.
You feel an urge to fix it so you can feel okay again.

That pattern once helped you stay connected.

But now, it’s exhausting you.

Self-trust grows when you can stay connected to yourself — even when something feels uncertain.

(This pattern is often called relational overthinking: when ambiguity in connection triggers self-doubt and internal over-analysis.)

Restore YourWings

Imagine If

• you caught the overthinking before it took over

• one moment didn’t cost you the rest of your day

• you paused instead of immediately assuming you did something wrong

• you didn’t need to send the extra text just to feel okay

• you stayed present in a hard conversation without shutting down

• you felt steady inside — even when something felt off

• you trusted your read of the situation instead of defaulting to self-blame

It changes how you show up.
It changes how you relate.
It changes how you feel about yourself.

Not more perfect.
Just more sure.

“Jen has guided me through difficult times and hard emotions, and has made me feel safe and heard. I can now BE me, BE happy and heal from my past, and let my sacred soul shine through.”

— Jennifer V.

“I feel such gratitude to work with Jen, she holds a supportive space where I feel seen and heard. Our work together has helped me to express the truth of my heart and break patterns that were holding me back from taking right action.”

— Alexis J.

HowWe Work

This work helps you:

• recognize overthinking patterns sooner

• understand why they happen

• interrupt them without shaming yourself

• stay connected to yourself when something feels off

• rebuild trust in your own instincts

We’re not trying to eliminate overthinking overnight.

We’re helping you relate to it differently
so it stops running your relationships
and you stop blaming yourself first.

About Jen

I know this pattern intimately — the overthinking, the bracing, the immediate self-blame.

As long as I can remember, I walked into rooms already reading them — monitoring moods, deciphering tone, trying to get everything right — only to turn on myself the moment I thought I’d missed something.

I’m not here to pretend I’ve transcended it.

I’m here because I’ve practiced staying with myself when it flares.

I don’t collapse into self-doubt the way I once did.

And that practice changed my relationship with myself.

My work isn’t performative.

It’s grounded, relational, and honest.

👉🏼 Meet Jen